How Do I Use a Coach?


A coach is different from a consultant, a mentor, a confidant, a counselor or someone to disciple you. You may want all of these at one time in your life development.

Enlist a coach in times of confusion, transition or change or at times of feeling stuck or even times of great success and effectiveness.

Seek a coach who is certified and trained. A coach training according to International Coach Federation (ICF) is the only way to ensure training in these core competencies.

I suggest that you interview potential coaches looking for ‘chemistry’

  • Do you feel listened to while talking with the coach?
  • Is this a person you would trust?
  • Does the coach hear what you are saying beyond the words?
  • Do you sense this coach can move you forward in your issues of concern?
  • What are some of their ‘success stories’?
  • Who else have they helped as a coach?

Once you feel good about the above item, commit to at least 6 sessions with a coach. It takes time to build trust and to experience momentum in the coaching relationship.

Talk with the coach about things like:

  • What challenges you are facing?
  • Where do you experience connectedness in life?
  • Where do you experience fulfillment?
  • What drains your energy in career, relationships etc?
  • What makes you happy and energized?
  • What are the places in life you feel stuck or confused?
  • What transitions or changes are you facing with dis-ease?
  • What do you need from the coaching relationship to help you move forward in life, career, relationships….?
  • What opportunities are presenting themselves that you feel unprepared to embrace?
  • What skills or capacities will help you feel more prepared for the presenting opportunities or challenges?


Prepared in conjunction with Eddie Hammett and and


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